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How to Draw Boundaries if You're an Introvert

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Okay let's jump to the point. You're a too nice person and people try to use you, and you can't say no. You try to say but can't, you rehearse and promise yourself everytime that next time you'll say no but then again they ask your favor or invade your privacy and take decisions on your behalf and you let it go. Now is the time to take the matter into your hands. The problem is not that you're naive, the bigger problem is that you avoid conflict. You want to keep everyone happy, you don't want to make waves in the calm water. But the thing is, it's only you who is trying to keep the waters calm, the others are not acknowledging it and stepping over you. It's a mix of many things. Your body language, your breathing, posture, how you dress, how you present yourself, how tough you seem to negotiate with, how much agreeable you are, how many times do you nod your head and be the best empath in the world by listening to others' problems. IT...
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Why Do I Keep Avoiding Conflicts? SIMPLE WAY OF DEALING WITH FEAR OF CONFRONTATION

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Trust me, we all are afraid of conflicts. We all want to keep the waters calm. But the world doesn't work that way, we need to understand that this is not a strategy that will solve the problem, instead it will passively make it bigger and you won't notice. 1. SPEAK YOUR MIND, BUT KEEP IT EASY AT FIRST      Please understand that you're not going to find a magic potion to suddenly quit being afraid. It is a learning process and it will take time. So keep it simple and easy, don't speak whatever you think about the situation or the person. Say what you usually say, but add a taste of your genuine opinion into it. The listener is probably used to listen to your timid personality, so don't shock them, it might make them think you're being aggressive and it might cause you trouble. 2. TALK LESS AND TALK SLOW, MAKE SILENCE YOUR TOOL The thing with people with low self-esteem or self-doubt or fear of judgement is, they tend to hate silence. The moment...
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