Why Do I Keep Avoiding Conflicts? SIMPLE WAY OF DEALING WITH FEAR OF CONFRONTATION

Trust me, we all are afraid of conflicts. We all want to keep the waters calm. But the world doesn't work that way, we need to understand that this is not a strategy that will solve the problem, instead it will passively make it bigger and you won't notice.

1. SPEAK YOUR MIND, BUT KEEP IT EASY AT FIRST

     Please understand that you're not going to find a magic potion to suddenly quit being afraid. It is a learning process and it will take time. So keep it simple and easy, don't speak whatever you think about the situation or the person. Say what you usually say, but add a taste of your genuine opinion into it. The listener is probably used to listen to your timid personality, so don't shock them, it might make them think you're being aggressive and it might cause you trouble.

2. TALK LESS AND TALK SLOW, MAKE SILENCE YOUR TOOL

The thing with people with low self-esteem or self-doubt or fear of judgement is, they tend to hate silence. The moment they say something and the other person takes quite a few seconds to respond, they start panicking, they try to fill in the gaps with gibberish related to the topic at hand. 

Stop doing this. Manipulative people can use this to their advantage and extract information from you.

Whenever you talk to anyone, wait 2 seconds before uttering a single word. You'll feel the panic of worrying that the other person is waiting for your response and you should hurry up. But stop, wait, think, then speak.

"Be a man of few words. The more you speak, the more fidgety and common you seem, and the more you are probably going to say something foolish." 

~Robert Greene (48 Laws of Power)